Constantly, as humans we are waiting for permission for someone else before we do anything big in our lives. Whether it’s a parent, a significant other, or a friend. We get so caught up in what everyone else thinks that we often times shoot ourselves down when they don’t support your dream. It’s easy to let those fears go to your head and stop trying for something you honestly desired to attain.

I’ve always been a terrible decision maker. Not because I don’t think I can be a leader, but for fear of judgement and rejection. Making decisions is hard, knowing what you want is hard, but the only way to discover what you really want is to go out and get it. You can’t prance around waiting for everyone else to make your decisions, you have to go out there and chase it yourself.

At the end of the day the only person that has to live with your decisions is you. Why fear chasing a dream because it’s too big? Or someone told you that you can’t? We constantly are waiting for approval; rather than chasing after everything we want.

Humans are constantly under the notion that approval is acceptance, and acceptance means we’re worthy. Worthy of love, of relationships, of acceptance by other people and ourselves, of forgiveness of happiness. We set ourselves under this standard that there is something we are all chasing and being measured by that we must reach. We put so much pressure on ourselves that we keep trying to live by measurements we didn’t even create but society created for us. Thinking that we have to be and act a certain way to be liked, or to find what we desire to attain.

We live under this notion that we have to do everything that everyone is telling us to do, but at the end of the day it’s not enough, and it will never be enough. You’ll never find the perfect balance because everyone has a different sense of what perfect should be. You’ll be too soft, or too edgy, too loud or too quiet, the list is literally endless. If we let society decide for us, you’ll never be enough. You’re imperfect, in fact we all are, and that’s okay. You’re human, you have flaws, and imperfections, you’re too much, too crazy, too messy, maybe you feel like you’re not enough, but I guarantee someone out there looks at you and sees perfection.

Stop living under the idea that you need permission and give yourself permission. Give yourself permission to accept who you are, even if it is the ring leader of the hot mess express, because Lord knows I’m figuring out, that even that title has its’ perks. Give yourself permission to try something new, to fail daily, to chase wild leads. Give yourself the permission and validation you keep seeking from everyone else because at the end of the day, you are enough. You are capable of great things, don’t let anyone try telling you different.

Until Next Time,

Julissa